Doing the Math: Thoughts on Having a Baby Later in Life

Posted by on Nov 8, 2013 in Uncategorized | 26 comments

Doing the Math: Thoughts on Having a Baby Later in Life

Last summer, there was an article about women’s fertility that appeared in the Atlantic called “How Long Can You Wait to Have a Baby?” It kind of left me breathless. Though her conclusions are up for debate, Professor Jean Twenge asserted that fertility issues might not be as much tied to age and declining fertility as we have been led to believe. She proposed that if you have fertility issues when you are 38, you might have been just as likely to have them at 28; age might not be the problem in every case. If what she wrote...

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Sometimes Good Parents Miss the Class Party

Posted by on Nov 5, 2013 in Uncategorized | 33 comments

Sometimes Good Parents Miss the Class Party

The day after Halloween is never an easy day for anyone associated with children. I have never understood why schools don’t just give up the (Halloween) ghost and make the day after Halloween a teacher work day. Should we really subject teachers to classrooms full of exhausted children with sugar coursing through their veins, makeup smudges and colored hairspray still faintly marking their faces and hair? It’s kind of cruel and unusual. On the other hand… well, I am always excited to drop them off at school that morning. In a wise...

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The Threenager

Posted by on Nov 2, 2013 in Uncategorized | 21 comments

The Threenager

Truth: Three is my least favorite age. Everyone always talks about the “Terrible Twos,” but I have never taken issue with 2-year-olds. Two-year-olds need to fire their publicists. Sure, they can be irrational, impulsive, or indignant, but, really? They’re just babies stretched out into slightly longer bodies. I could forgive their tantrums because they didn’t have much control over their communication skills yet. I could understand their impulsive behavior because they genuinely, and obviously, couldn’t control...

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The Tell-Tale Mustache

Posted by on Oct 24, 2013 in Uncategorized | 31 comments

The Tell-Tale Mustache

I turned 39 this summer. Thirty. Nine. It’s kind of a big deal, this whole aging thing, huh? Stuff’s gettin’ real here now. It’s now markedly harder to lose weight, my knees creak, and I’m a big old sissy about needing my sleep. Depressing. Luckily, I’m not yet experiencing many of the symptoms of aging my friends have reported. I’ve yet to flash hot, to wake up sweating, or to suffer headaches of hormonal origin. But right around my birthday — seriously, within a week of turning 39 — I...

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Raising Giants

Posted by on Oct 7, 2013 in Uncategorized | 2 comments

Raising Giants

  Dear Little People I Love, When I was your age, I came home one day from school and told my dad about the funniest thing that happened that day — something that involved a group of kids playing a prank on an unpopular girl in my class. Granddad was not amused. In fact, he was angry with me. He told me, in no uncertain terms, that the prank was not funny. He reminded me of his brother, my uncle, who had struggled his entire school life with bullies and teasing. I had never seen Granddad so angry with me before. I even saw a tear...

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Lessons Learned from a Year of Staying in the Picture

Posted by on Oct 4, 2013 in Uncategorized | 8 comments

Lessons Learned from a Year of Staying in the Picture

It was a year ago this week that I was sitting at a restaurant booth with my husband, sneaking in a lunch together, when my phone pinged and I saw that the Huffington Post had published a piece I wrote called “The Mom Stays in the Picture.” The week that followed stands as one of the craziest of my life: a whirlwind of emotion and disbelief as that post was shared all over the world. In the past year, I have worked very hard to stay in the picture with my children. I was in the holiday card photo for the first time in years. I...

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You Won’t Miss ALL of This

Posted by on Oct 1, 2013 in Uncategorized | 3 comments

I write a lot about how fast time is passing, how my children grow figuratively and literally before my very eyes, and how I know now to really try to savor the moments when they are little. I mean every word of it, because it’s true — and having both an 11 year old and a 1 year old at the same time only makes those points more poignantly to me now. But I always laugh to myself when I remember a particular phone call from a friend the week after she gave birth to her first child. “I have to ask you,” she said,...

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The Things Unwritten and Unsaid

Posted by on Sep 28, 2013 in Uncategorized | 2 comments

People criticize moms who write about their kids. We overshare, they say. We exploit, they cry. We’re narcissistic navel-gazers, spewing treacly, precious cliches all over the interwebz. Perhaps. Sometimes. Maybe. But I write about my experiences, parenting and otherwise, in an effort to connect. There were so many days early in my motherhood when I sat on the floor in my underwear and cried right along with my colicky, unhappy first baby, leaking from every orifice and wondering what the hell I had gotten myself into by having a baby....

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Middle School Blues

Posted by on Sep 26, 2013 in Uncategorized | 10 comments

After I wrote about my oldest son’s less-than-awesome first day of middle school a while back, I had people asking me for a follow-up for weeks. The first day was a jarring slap of reality, but in the weeks since, we have all adjusted — some of us better than others. Namely, my son is just fine and rebounded almost immediately, but I am still struggling a bit. On Tuesday mornings, my toddler and I drive our neighborhood carpool of four middle schoolers to school. I don’t mind the drive to the somewhat distant magnet school...

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You Won’t Miss ALL of This: Now on WhattoExpect.com’s Word of Mom!

Posted by on Sep 9, 2013 in Uncategorized | 0 comments

I’m honored and excited to announce that I now have the chance to write for What to Expect.com as one of their Word of Mom bloggers! My first post is live tonight, and in it I muse about how I spend a lot of time thinking and writing about how much I do and will miss my children’s baby- and childhoods. However, there are some things that, let’s be honest, I’m just not going to miss at all. Like three-year-olds. Don’t judge — you know it’s true.   Come check me out and say hi at What to Expect,...

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